Is the Body Positive Movement going too far?

Hey Loves,

I really wanted to come to you guys with something that has been on my heart lately. I couldn’t think of a better title, but I need you all to rock with my for a little bit. I’m hoping this post will open up a dialogue about the state of the “body positive” movement. Let me be clear, I am all for change, and healthier public images of plus size women. I do think our daughters need good examples of women doing great things. However the ideas I’ve been seeing lately I find troublesome to say the least.


I don’t know about you, but lately I have been seeing different articles calling for change. 1st we were inundated with articles & images about creating a plus size barbie doll, and recently a young lady from Virginia has started a petition to create plus size Disney princesses. She says…

I made this petition because I’m a plus-size young woman, and I know many plus-size girls and women who struggle with confidence and need a positive plus-size character in the media.

More info on her petition.

Now I’ve been a plus size girl all my life, I had MANY barbie dolls, and I  own pretty much every Disney movie. But I’m so bothered by these ideas.  I truly don’t believe that plus size barbie dolls & Disney princesses are the answer.

I think when it comes to raising our young girls, it starts with parents and/or caregivers. Our role models should be our mothers 1st, not a fantasy character. Because that is exactly what Barbie is and that is what the Disney princesses are, they are fantasy and should remain as such.  If parents took the time to remind their daughters that they are beautiful, and reinforce healthy & positive body ideas, then we wouldn’t have to rely on that ridiculous idea that our daughters would need fat barbie dolls.

Now don’t get me wrong yes, media and public visuals do play a part in the lives of kids nowadays and I understand that, but there has to be a level of personal responsibility that parents or caregivers need to take. I firmly believe what we learn at home is what we take with us throughout life. Think about it, who are our 1st teachers? Our parents. If we see our mothers working hard, on their grind, we tend grow up doing the same thing. But if our mother is constantly talking about being fat, constantly criticizing her body (or the child’s body), a child growing up will take on that same idea. Instead of teaching sports as just a form of exercise use it to teach leadership skills or team building skills, or how it can offer the chance to travel.

I feel like we’re always hoping and longing to be accept and have this crazy notion that these materialistic things will some how make the fat girl accept herself, when the women in her life haven’t instilled acceptance from the get go. We should be supporting mentoring programs on healthy body image, supporting after school programs to help them with their school work. We should be teaching them leadership skills. We should be teaching them public speaking skills or have them learn an instrument. (do our girls know who Sujari Britt is?) We should be putting our daughters in extracurricular activities; girl scouts, dance, sports, debate teams. Give them something to strive to, help them accomplish something worthwhile. That is where their confidence as young ladies will grow. Open their minds to something other than weight.

Are we opening our daughters up to women like….
Toni Morrison: is an American novelist, editor, and professor.Bernice King: an American Baptist minister. She is the youngest daughter of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr and Coretta Scott King.Shonda Rhimes: An American screenwriter, director and producer. Jillian Camarena-Williams: an American track and field athleteMichelle Carter: An American shot putter. She is the current American record holder in the event with a distance of 20.24 mHolley Mangold An American athlete, she was a member of the 2012 US Olympic Team. Sukanya Krishnan: A news anchor for the 6-9 am segments of the PIX Morning News on WPIX in New York City.Leymah Gbowee: Liberian peace activist responsible for leading women’s peace movement that helped bring an end to the 2nd Liberian Civil War in 2003Madeline Jones: Editor in Chief of Plus Model Magazine

^^^^ All of these women, among others need to be visible to our daughters. These women are of all colors, and backgrounds but have done amazing things with their careers. Let’s not completely remove the images of Disney & Barbie because we do need to keep their imaginations flowing in different directions. My point is I think we need to change our way of thinking. And not always do we have to alter images, but add new ones to create balance in what our girls see.

What are your thoughts? Do you think we need plus size Disney Princesses? Let me know your thoughts.

xoxo
Shay

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ATGC on the Scene; Bras & Blowouts

Hey Loves,

We all know that a good bra can do WONDERS for a girl’s life. It’s like the second you put on a good bra, you become Naomi Campbell in like 10 seconds.


I had the awesome pleasure to attend the Bras & Blowouts event hosted by Nicolette Mason and Panache. It was held at the the DreamDry hair salon on 57th st. Now of course I couldn’t do much with a blowout cause obviously I have locs, but I went to support Nicolette and see what kind of bras Panache has to offer.

 When I arrived I was greeted by the PR team for Panache and of course offered champagne and snacks. (like why else would we go to events? lol I’m kidding)

I was then given a quick tour/preview of all the styles that are available. Everything from their regular bras, lace bras, sports bras, and even swimsuits.

Racks, on racks, on racks…of bras lol

My 2 favorite prints. I’m usually not one for bras without molded cups, but this line totally changed my mind.

I did get to try on bra and I ended up choosing their Sculptresse bra, which has to be one of the most comfortable bras I’ve ever worn.

Sculptresse is new from the designers at Panache: a gorgeous lingerie collection for full figures, offering everything from basic bras in beige and black to fashion prints, colors and styles.
Sculptresse offers bras in sizes 36-46, D-J.  (Size range depends on the specific style.)  Coordinating briefs, boyshorts and thongs in sizes L-6XL. Retailers include BareNecessities.com, HerRoom.com, FreshPair.com, and more – both brick-and-mortar stores and online lingerie retailers across the country. Retail prices range from $56-$62 for a balconette or full-cup bra, and approximately $26-$34 for a coordinating brief, boyshort or thong.

^^^^ doesn’t Whitney Thompson look amazing in these pictures. Love it. Curvy girls can pose in lingerie, do ever let anyone tell you different. For more info, pics and styles head to Panache’s website. Until next time loves.

xoxo
Shay

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From a Dress to a Skirt

Hey Loves,

1st off, Happy Father’s day to all the the dads out there. This post was a combination of bordem gone wrong and blogger inspiration. The other day, one of my favorite plus size bloggers Chasity of GarnerStyle, showed how she versatile one skirt can be. If you have seen it, check it out here.

But anyway, I bought this dress from Strawberry sometime in February and only wore it once. I actually forgot I had it cause, I couldn’t find it. (story of my life) But today as I was laying around I threw it on, and started thinking of different ways in can be worn. So off I went on my dressing up adventure lol  Below are the quick simply outfits I came up with.

Casual Sunday
Dress: Strawberry
Belt: Lane Bryant
Wedges: Target
Bag: Call it Spring

Ms. Sassy
Skirt: Strawberry
Shirt:gisellaramirez.com
Shoes: Justfab.com

Office Cutie
Dress: Strawberry
Blazer: Lord & Taylor (old)
Shoes: Anne Klien

Thank you to Chasity for the inspiration. And for my loves that are on a budget, this is a great way to have multiple outfits just from one clothing item. You know how I do…now twirl honey lol

Until nest time loves

xoxo
Shay

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Rewind My Red Dress

Hey Loves,

This summer I told myself I really wanted to stay away from high low dresses and skirts, because they are practically EVERYWHERE lol The market is so saturated with the cut that I’m in overload. But as I was getting dressed on this dreadfully hot day in NJ/NY I pulled out this dress that was all the way in the back of my closet. It was one of my favorites from last summer.

So I went against my own word and wore it lol. But I remember why I loved this dress so much. It is super light, comfy and perfect for a day with it’s sweltering out and I have to walk. And best of all it fits soooooo much better this year, than it did last year.

Outfit Details:
Dress: Forever 21
Shoes: Target
Jewelry: Dots

 This dress always made me want to dance!

Until next time loves

xoxo
Shay

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Spring Time Florals

Hey Loves,

This look was kind of inspired by my love Kelly of Masque Mag. I saw her in her great pink blazer looking so ready for the weather. I just knew I had to throw on something that made me feel extra springy (yup i made up a new word lol)

The sun is shining and if you’ve been following me for some time, you would know that I personally hate to cover my legs in warm weather. I need to be in skirts, shorts and dresses. So when I was watching the news this morning, they said NY would hit a high of 78 degrees, your girl was ready to bring the gams out!

Outfit Details:
Dress: Closet Sale
Belt: Vintage (moms drawer)
Shoes: Target
Glasses: Lunettes Kollektion

 So I got this really awesome dress from a closet sale that Plus Model Mag sponsored earlier this year. I got it for only $10 #score!

 The weather has been sucky to say the least. So it is such an awesome feeling to be able to show some skin and feel cute. Oh spring/summer how I’ve missed thee.

When I bought the dress I worried if it would be good for the warm weather. Cause you know the weather here in NJ/NY can be soooooo rude lol But it’s actually very light.

I really love the print of this dress. When I saw it just knew it had to be mine.  I do need to have it altered a bit. Being that I am not a busty girl the top have of the dress is rather big on me. But please believe I made it work for today lol.

These are my favorite glasses. They are from a German designer by the name of Lunettes Kollektion. I love them. They fit my face so well. And they can be dressed up and chic but still have vintage vibe. It’s a win win for me.

So there you have it. I hope you all are ready to enjoy this weather. How are you ringing in spring?

Until next time loves

xoxo
Shay

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Turn Heads at Prom…Shapewear

Hello Loves,

So now that we covered the dress, let’s address what to wear under them. As a curvy/plus size full figured girl, your undergarments, spanx, shapewear are ESSENTIAL. It’s not about looking skinny. It’s about having a neat and clean silhouette. There is nothing worse that seeing a girl in a beautiful dress, and you can tell she needs shapewear and isn’t wearing it.It’s also important to know that you should not be embarrassed about wearing shapewear. It is SUPA common, even our slender counterparts wear spanx or shapewear as well. Trust when I tell you, it makes a world of a difference. So here are some things to remember with shapewear.

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Model Spotlight; Liris Crosse

Hey loves, So it is that time for another Model Spotlight. This young lady, should not be a stranger to you. If she is, please get your life lol But no seriously I am very excited to have the opportunity to feature her. This young woman is pioneer in the plus model industry and a true trail blazer in this throat industry. And clearly she is doing something right. She has been in multiple campaigns representing the full figured curvy women of the world. So with out further delay, lets meet this months Model Spotlight Ms. Liris Crosse

Name: Liris Crosse
Clothing Size: 14
Agency (if applicable): Dorothy Combs Models
Blog name (if applicable): www.LirisC.com
1
   What
made you want to become a model?
  I loved
taking pictures & walking runway since I was a little girl!  People always told me I was photogenic. I
also looked up to Tyra Banks & Naomi Campbell growing up so I wanted to be
a model diva like them. It looked like fun!
 What
are some of the brands that you have worked with?
Lane Bryant, Ashley Stewart
(recently appeared in their spring in-store campaign), Target, Qristyl Frazier,
Monif C., Loop 18, Vogue, Essence, the list goes on & on!
 How
long have you been working?
Over a decade, I’m definitely a veteran in the
game! Many call me a pioneer so I’m blessed to have made my mark!
So
many girls want to become a model what advice would give them? What should they
expect?
Expect more NO’s than Yes. This industry is not for the weak hearted
since you deal with a lot of rejection. It takes most models awhile to get
started, sometimes even years & you must INVEST in great shoots,
maintenance & quality marketing materials. Gotta spend money to make money
or you don’t need to do this. My best advice would be “Less is more”.  Go to agency open calls with simple, pretty
hair, makeup & clothes. Agents like to see what they can transform you into!
    
   A
common misconception is that plus size/curvy/thick models live unhealthy life
styles. What do you say to people who think like that?
Not true, we just happen
to be NORMAL & carry more weight. Most plus size models, I know work out or
are really active. I think we all try to eat what we want but in moderation. We
just don’t starve ourselves. I know I don’t!
      
Was
this your dream career? How did you get to this point in your career?
Yes this
was my dream & I must say I’m blessed to still be living it!!! I got this
far from hard work, reinvention, networking, my parents’ prayers & God’s
favor!
   
  If
you could be doing anything else other than modeling, what would it be?
Acting
which I also do already but I’d like to do it at a higher level. I also would
love to own a bar/lounge, a full service salon & a clothing boutique. I
love food & fashion LOL!
       
Where
do you get your confidence from? How do you stay in a positive frame of mind?
I
get it from my parents’ instilling in me greatness at a very young age. I also
get my confidence from going through trials because they make you stronger once
you conquer them. I stay in a positive frame of mind because my dad is one of
the most positive people I know. He has always been inspirational & a big
dreamer. I definitely take after him in that aspect. Also I know that my words
& thoughts are spirits so I only like to think or speak positivity.
     Why
do you think it so important for plus size/curvy/thick models to have the same
respect as straight size models?
Its important because we represent the main
group of women in the world. Most women aren’t a size 2 or 4 plus most of us
lead a healthy lifestyle. We work just as hard as straight size models but with
fewer opportunities or respect. We deserve a lot more than what we’ve been
getting. We shouldn’t be treated as a novelty like many designers or magazines
do.
So
many girls grow with such low self esteem. Were you ever like that? If so what
advice would you give young girls struggling with her self esteem?
I pretty
much grew up with a good self esteem although there was a period where I
struggled in who I was. What brought me around was my faith in God & truly
starting to take the time to learn who I am & what I bring to the world
daily. I would say read great books, travel & meet new people, try things
you never did before to stretch your personal growth & find YOURSELF!  Then be the BEST you there is!
The last couple questions are just
to have fun with….
1.       Haagen
Dazs or Ben & Jerry? Haagen Dazs
2.       Favorite
tv show growing up? The Cosby Show
3.       Favorite
Halloween costume? When I was Beyonce in the “Kitty Kat” video 🙂
4.       Louis
Vuitton or Hermes? LV
5.       Buying
your boyfriend his favorite video game or those new pair of shoes? Shoes, I
don’t care for video games lol
So there you have it loves. Ms. Liris Crosse is one woman, that has pushed her way through this industry. And we have seen just how much she has come alive in front of the camera. So the next time you walk past an Ashley Stewart store and you see her face, be sure to give her 2 snaps and a twirl lol
Until next time loves.
xoxo
Shay
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Easter…that is all

Happy Easter my loves. Honestly I couldn’t find anything super “spring link” to wear on such a Sunday as this. So I opted for one of my fave Asos dresses. If you guys remember I bought this for my birthday back in February. I made to break up the black with my mint green pumps and matching jewelry.
Just a quick outfit for church. We always need that one outfit that we can throw on and feel super chic and cute.

Outfit Details:
Dress: Asos
Shoes: JustFab
Bag: DIY
Coat: Catherines

Makeup for today

Had to hit a model pose

 I live for these shoes.

So until next time loves Happy Easter.

xoxo
Shay

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Turn Heads at Prom Pt.2

Hey Loves,

Ok so now that we have options for senior prom lets move on to jr. prom. This is actually double duty post. Because I am someone whose school did 2 proms a year. Junior prom in my opinion is a glorified cocktail party. So in my opinion, a floor length gown really isn’t needed. Also for those girls who are more on the short side and don’t want to do a floor length gown, and want shorter hem, this is for you.

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Turn Heads at Prom

Hey Loves,

Yup, it’s that time of year again. A lot of you have been sending messages for some ideas for prom. So I took some time to look up some really great options for prom. So that way when you walk in the room, you not only turn heads, you break necks. This will be part 1 of what I’m calling the Prom Head Turner Series. I will explore dress options for both Jr. and Sr. prom, shoe ideas, hair ideas, and makeup to make your big day the best it can be.

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